This Birth Story has been shared by a woman I was honoured to work with on the Badass Birth Method Course. I adored working with her and her partner. I’m delighted to bring her story to you.
She has opted to remain anonymous.
Positive Birth Story
I had spent much of my pregnancy refusing to think about this birth due to fear of a repeat of my first traumatic birth four years ago. I was seeing a different midwife at each appointment and was not going to write a birth. I couldnt even read about giving birth. Looking back I can see my state of mind and the fear that consumed me could have led to a self fulfilling prophecy. Luckily deep down I must have known something within me needed to change. I just didn't know then what an amazing journey I was embarking on. One that has changed me so much as a person. Firstly I forced myself to start reading The Positive Birth Book by Milli Hill and what a turning point this was.
A few years previously someone on Facebook mentioned they had a doula supporting them with their birth. The idea of someone I knew being there, advocating for me (I felt the midwife didn't listen to me or respect me first time around) resonated with me.
The Birth of Reuben
A day before I turned 37 weeks pregnant I was due into the hospital for a scan, to see if Reuben had turned yet as he was lying breech throughout my whole pregnancy. I’d already prepared an argument in my head about not wanting an ECV (they sounded painful, distressing for Mum and Baby, and not always successful) so I lay on the sonographers bed that afternoon in hope that he’d turned. But of course, he hadn’t! So we went down to the consultant to discuss my options, and that’s where things escalated a lot quicker than I’d expected.
The Birth of Robyn
I found out I was pregnant in October 2017 and I knew from the very start that I wanted to to have a natural birth. Unfortunately from the point that we announced our pregnancy at the end of December, all of my mummy friends and colleagues had already started to fill my head with horror gory birthing stories and i knew i needed to hear some positive words if I was going to achieve my goal. I did some online searching and followed some links on positive birthing and birthing without fear. Through my online searches I found the Scottish Doula Jen Muir of 'Badass Birthing' and after a short email chat with her, I signed myself and my husband up to a workshop she was leading in March 2018, Glasgow.
Our Birth Story
Our birth story...
Well We didn't make it to our homebirth and we didn't make it into the birth pool... BUT I Had the most incredible and healing birth that I didn't know I needed so badly.
So on Thursday I woke up and a usually 3 year old sets the pace of life and I kinda thought I had leaked my pee somehow. Anyway I stuck a pad on just Incase and went about my day. I dyed my hair...thankfully lol!
I was leaking on and off all day but tried not to think too much of it I was 37+5 weeks.
Bed time for toddler face came and took a while but all settled in bed 9pm and just dosing off and the trickle started...and didn't feel like it was gonna stop. I literally lept out of bed.and woooosh!
The story of you, my darling, my little love.
My due date was March 12th, country was covered with snow and stress levels were HIGH! The 12th came and passed as did the next, pretty much, two weeks! Two failed stretch and sweeps and an induction booked for the 24th! WORST NIGHTMARE! I had gone from longing for labour, being so excited about my waters breaking, rushing to hospital and having a natural water birth to a drug induced labour and birth, I was gutted to say the least. We got to the hospital on Saturday morning...
Jess’ Homebirth Story
On the 23/05/17 at 40+4 weeks pregnant I woke up at 4am feeling a little disheartened labour still hadn’t begun after I'd had a few birthy twinges and a show the night before, I did some reflexology to help bring on labour and fell back asleep. I then woke at 7am to some mild surges, not really knowing if it was actually labour or if it was just another twinge, it just felt like a very mild tightening in my lower back. An hour later I was sure this was definitely going to be the day we meet our baby. Mild surges were coming every 10 minutes or so.
The birth of Indio Wild - By Holly Vincent
Indio Wild, this is for you, so when you grow up you will know exactly how you came into this world and how insanely proud I am of you, of us, our journey. It is magic.
You are a rainbow baby, a double rainbow baby, infact. Before your soul was arrived, we lost two sweet babes that never quite made it earthside. It was heart-shattering. But you came very quickly after, and you filled my heart with equal parts love and worry. I was scared that you would leave me, but you stayed.
Sitting firmly at the top of most women’s birth concerns is that niggling or sometimes screaming fear that she will ‘tear’ during second stage (pushing).
This worry can be so acute for some that it can actually effect their anxiety levels, causing their body to become tense and actually make them more likely to require stitches. So by just knowing the best way to avoid tears you’re reducing your anxiety and therefore already less likely to experience a problem!
I have created the below list in an effort to help you reduce your anxiety and also to provide you with practice tools and ideas you can use now or during your birth. Enjoy!
The doula, one of the many enigmas of birth. Who is she? What does she do? Why should I consider one? The idea of a doula can initially pose more questions than answers but once you’ve broken through the unknown aspects the role begins to make sense very quickly.
A doula in her truest form is...